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The King and the Boy - Insights
Illustrations
made by:
Lisa Maynard.
About:
The King and the Boy! - Extensive insights…
About Facts:
Welcome to this section having
a further look, and listening,
about this small fairytale.
To the left are the issues intro
listed, which you can click on
to read while listening.
Bottom right, you have facts
available in PDF and Site links.
01
Gender can be said differentiates us the most.
Gender regardless of everything else, makes
our personalities as human beings differ.
Strange is that we refer gender as opposites,
almost as black and white, when in fact male
and female can vary so much in appearance.
But still, we identify ourselves as either a man or a woman.
It becomes even stranger when some people within the LGBTQ
community identify themselves as a mix of both genders, a third,
fourth, fifth gender, and so on, and some of them no gender at all.
However, LGBTQ is about ‘Sexuality’ and does not apply here.
So, what decides gender, and what does gender look like?
Some children are born ‘Intersexual,’ a mix of gentiles, hormones,
chromosomes, and more…, which is a ‘Handicap’ and has nothing
to do with ‘Sexuality’ at all. But, how do they know their gender?
02
What is Personality? What makes a person?
… and what makes a person male or female?
No one can be a mother, a boy, or even a King,
just by believing or wishing that. So, what is it
that makes us whatever labels we want to
be…, or by others are assigned to?
The personality of a mother is what we expect a woman to be when
having brought birth to a child…, which has to do with Gender.
Then we have the boy who didn’t fit in with his description, and
the King too ‘what are they’? An institution, function, label, or a
role to play? Whatever and instead: Personality is ‘who’ we are,
both alive and living…, and that is regardless Gender.
Children at birth already know who they are, and their future is a
process living…, which we parents and adults should protect and
allow them their ‘Personalities’ to grow!
03
So now! Either I got both my Gender and
Personality assigned for me by others, or,
I am just who I am. But where do I fit in?
Where can I find me myself living? Is that
‘me who I am’ in charge, or is it that role I
have to play…, how others perceive me?
If we think of ‘Integrity’ as them/who/what is in charge of all those
‘me who I am’ puzzle pieces, isn’t it those others living my life then
and not me? So, to be in charge of one’s life is about ‘Integrity’!
If we for ‘whatever various reasons’ are not in control of our lives,
we have no integrity! That ‘me who I am’ need to show, that’s how
we expand and make our lives living, happen. Fashion and how to
dress is about ‘Looks’ and integrity about ‘Appearence’, the Soul.
You by Mind can control how to dress, but the Soul tells you ‘what’
to wear, allowing your gender and personality ‘Appear’, showing!
INTEGRITY
04
We can always assume and refer things to be
whatever. But how do we reach conclusions,
what are our assumptions based on?
A simple answer would be that we draw our
conclusions based on ourselves, our own lives
living, and the reality as we ‘choose’ to see it.
We can of course read a book and learn from
others, but that’s just education, that’s what
we are supposed to do, right? To perceive someone different than
we assume a person to be is a serious challenge affecting all we are.
From small silly irrelevant details to a major change in gender, we
are hit hard in much the same way as a person changing gender,
and it does have an impact on our integrity, ‘and we don’t like it!’
But let’s say we skip assuming things and instead perceive what’s
honestly presented to us, wouldn’t that turn things around?
05
What/Who we believe in is about trust!
However, trusting another person can be
difficult as it to some extent means that
we give up trusting ourselves, common
sense, and our own judgment. Like for
instance, how to perceive other people.
But strange is that growth in integrity can turn these difficult and
unsecure feelings upside down. The little boy trusted the King, but
not for what he said. Instead, he trusted the King by being allowed
to place the puzzle pieces showing who ‘she’ was.
There’s a difference between believing ‘in’ a person and what that
person says. Believing ‘in’ a person rather than yourself, you lose
integrity. Believing in yourself first off, your integrity grows!
You don’t have to ‘trust’ what other people are telling you is true.
You might be forced to submit…, but that only tells it’s a lie!
BELIEF
06
Within a Kingdome (as well as Democracy), it’s
assumed that we citizens one way or the other
care and looking after each other. For whatever
better or worse it doesn’t quite matter here, but
instead, when, and where to draw the line.
There need to be some kind of border to sort of
protect the Kingdome and its citizens values.
So…, what do we people value the most?
In this tale it can be said that the little boy challenged and crossed
all whatever borders there is by changing gender, but did he?
The only thing changed was the King’s and the little boy’s mother’s
understanding, nothing else. All it took for the King; was to admit
his ignorance in order to understand that the boy, in fact, already
from birth was a girl but born with the ’handicap transsexualism.’
Understanding about all and any handicap, is about INCLUSION!
07
Whatever outside is not relevant unless it’s
threatening us or anyone’s existence.
So, to protect us from fears, we create like
mental Castle Walls surrounding ‘our’
Kingdome excluding unwanted people.
Then further to keep us safe, we vote for a
guardian, a President, or like here, ‘a King,’ and we believe in them
like no questions asked so that we happily can continue our lives
without being bothered with things we don’t want to understand.
And with no questions asked, that outside, for better or worse, start
to fade away from everyone citizen’s consciousness, as that keeping
the people unknowingly happy was what they voted for anyway.
But the King in this fairytale was different. His integrity was strong
and wide enough to expand his understanding beyond, making his
Kingdome citizens ‘Inclusive’ and thus allowing them to grow!
EXCLUSION
08
About you whoever you are, where can I find
you? Are you to be found ‘Inside’ or ‘Outside’
this fairytale Kingdome borders, or, whatever
borders you, or others, have set up for you?
If inside…, how narrow are your borders, and
how many alike you do you feel there are?
And if outside…, will we ever meet?
Like in this fairytale; that little girl the little boy was, was from start
outside, and outside ‘she’ didn’t exist. But what about the little boy,
did he exist inside? And if so, ‘how’ and what did he exist as?
About you…, as in how we perceive others: How do ‘we’ perceive
all those ‘you’ perceiving this fairytale either right or wrong?
Like, if ‘you’ approve to one thing which ‘I’ disapprove of, you are
out! Like, disagreeing on ‘one’ thing makes all other things doesn’t
matter. So, how can ‘you’ and ‘I’ agree on this fairytale…, or not?
YOU
09
This me who I am is a reality which most of
us know nothing about. But as usual we take
most things for granted ‘assuming’ that ‘me’
is the same as ‘who I am.’ But if not, which
of them are aware of ‘me,’ … or, ‘who I am’?
As we grow older and hopefully wiser too, we may think that this
awareness of ourselves has increased and like settled down…, but
really, has it? If we examine ourselves, all puzzle pieces during our
lifetime; are all those pieces really ‘me’ or are they just a mishmash
of what family, friends, people, and society, want ‘who I am’ to be?
To understand here is that the two…, me, and who I am…, differ!
ex. ‘Me’ can feel bad even if ‘I’ don’t want to and here this conflict
shows. Not within the boy, the girl she was, but instead within the
King, aware of one (the girl) whilst perceiving the other (the boy).
So: How that can be, is yet another story, or a fairytale if you like.
ME
10
There are reasons for everything,
and this fairytale is no exception.
That little girl emerging is very
real, in fact much more so than
the little boy ever was in the first place. But it takes some effort to
perceive that little girl after first having met her as a boy.
There is some sense in this, as well as in reality too. The ability to
prevent us from perceiving the little girl is very much the same key
that can be used to unlock most disputes and relation problems. It
all has to do with ‘allowing’ ourselves to open up, observe, trusting
our true self…, and separate what’s real from what is an illusion.
The hard part is what media (and others) are telling us to think, do,
and believe, to fit in! But if we allow us to subside our true self,
whose life do we force ourselves to live then? … and:
Does that life even exist?
CONCLUSION
11
As I started to convert this fairytale from
2005 to speech, I have aged and grown a
lot in understanding. The fairytale itself
is the same, but I have edited the Insight
section based on experience, reality as is,
us, human manifests, and behaviour.
Hopefully, this fairytale with its insights
will make you grow in understanding,
allowing whatever handicapped
child to be inclusive, too.
The LGBTQ community claim representing Intersex and
Transsexual children and teens, instead they ‘use’ their
handicap for own sexual purposes. Feminist activists
and their ‘Gender Science’ claim gender to be a social
construction, which this handicap proves very wrong.
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